Its a hard thing to be caught in the middle of somebody elses lies. To effectively be used as a tool and therefore become – against your will and in spite of your declared wish – complicit in their deceit.
How should you take this?

Other than abandoning friendships years in the making there is very little one can do in this situation. This petty neo-liberal society wallows in petty deceits and in petty games … It’s like being at a kindergarten party playing pass the parcel. For me, I’d rather destroy the parcel as soon as it got into my hands but then that’s not the way the game gets played. It’s funny how, by insisting on preventing your own participation in such an underhanded game, you can also be labelled a spoil sport. You can be forced into the game as a non player whether you like it or not. Why maintain such a game where the only apparent winner is them that begin the game and they are only a winner provided they can make you complicit in their petty deceits? It doesn’t seem to be a game that teaches much good value. It seems to be a game not worth beginning.

It’s a game of spite of course, and of self-justification with a very narrow motive, and a target at the end of a dark and darkening tunnel. It’s another case where the end apparently justifies the means. You pick the nastiest end and everything and anything that will hit the target is superfluous to the hitting of the target.

Divorce can often be played out this way. Where everything in one life is subsumed to the destruction of another life. Spite and envy are two of the greatest sins of man, and unfortunately, they don’t always destroy just those who must play the game – they destroy those who wouldn’t even lower themselves to be spectators of it. I’ve had more than enough involvement in divorce to last a lifetime … I think that all friends of a divorcing couple should be locked away, terminally .. for their own good.

Shocking attitude? Yes. But if you don’t want to play the game and you’re not permitted to step out of it, then there really isn’t much point in standing in front of the target because no matter how many times you deflect the poisoned arrows – it still manages to be your fault whether they hit or miss.

“.. she who loses sight is like one expelled from the world, when she does not see it anymore, nor anything in it. And such a life is brother to death.” – Leonardo da Vinci, on blindness.